top of page
Meet the author

Meet the Author

Aqueelah Wheatley, M.S., LMFT

Aqueelah is a full-time therapist that enjoys helping others through her writing. Her blogs consist of fun and helpful advice, a variety of opinions, psychoeducation, and a good bit of humor

~ Enjoy

The world is an overwhelming place. We are constantly surrounded by the expectations of others, whether we know it or not. We are expected to do well in school, to make the right choices in our life, to be perfect parents, and so on and so forth. This constant pressure can take a toll on our mental and physical health. In this post, we are going to discuss the concept of releasing the expectations of others. We are going to discuss the different ways that this can be done, and we are going to give you some tips on how to do it. By releasing the expectations of others, we can find ourselves and learn to live in the present moment. We can learn to be happy for what we have, rather than constantly looking for what we don’t have. This is a valuable lesson that will help us to live a better life. So let’s get started.

1. Why do we have expectations of others?

There are many reasons why we have expectations of others. Some of us may have been taught that it's polite to have expectations of others, or that it's the right thing to do. But in the end, it's usually because we're afraid. We're afraid of not being liked, of not being able to control the situation, or of not being able to fix things.

But what if we stopped holding onto these expectations and instead created a relationship with the other person where we simply accepted them for who they are? We stopped expecting them to be something that they're not and we started giving them the opportunity to be themselves.

This doesn't mean that we have to agree with them, or that we have to like them. It just means that we're willing to give them the chance to be part of our lives in a way that's healthy and positive.

2. How to release the expectations of others

In order to find yourself, you must first release the expectations of others. No one is perfect and you will never be able to please everyone. This is simply impossible. When you begin to accept this, it will free you up to do the things that make you happy and make a difference in the lives of others. You cannot change the people around you and you cannot control their actions. What you can control is your reaction to the situation. You can choose to be upset, or you can choose to understand and forgive.

The best way to change the expectations of others is to change your own. When you become more understanding and forgiving, you will set an example for others to follow.

3. How to set healthy boundaries

In order to find yourself, it's important to set healthy boundaries. This means understanding what you're willing to let go and what you're willing to hold on to. It's also important to be realistic about the expectations of others. Don't put all your eggs in one basket and assume that everything will work out the way you want it to. Take a step back and see the situation from a different perspective. This can help you see the situation more objectively and allow you to set boundaries accordingly. Be open to change, but be realistic about what you're willing to let go. This will help you to stay in control and feeling good about yourself.

4. How to let go of grudges

When it comes to finding yourself, it's important to release the expectations of others. This is something that's difficult for many of us to do. We get wrapped up in the drama and stress of the situation and end up carrying a grudge. It's not fair to the person who has wronged us and it will only lead to more pain in the future. The best way to deal with this situation is to forgive and forget. Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to agree with what the other person did. It means that you're accepting that what happened was out of their control and that you no longer hold that person responsible. This is a difficult process but it will help you to move on and find peace.

5. How to forgive

It's tough to put the past behind you but it's necessary to move forward. Acknowledging that what happened and forgiving those who hurt you is the first step.

Often times, we hold onto anger and resentment in our hearts. We may not even realize it, but we are punishing ourselves by not forgiving our offenders. Forgiving doesn't mean that you're condoning what happened or that you're accepting the person in question as a good person. It simply means that you are releasing them from the responsibility of your pain. It can be hard to do but it's a necessary step in moving on.

6. How to let go of the past

In order to move forward, it's important to release the expectations of others. No one can do it for you. You have to do it for yourself. It can be difficult but it's the only way to find yourself.

When you release the expectations of others, it creates more space in your life. This can be difficult to do but it's necessary. If you're always holding onto what others should or shouldn't do, you'll never be able to take ownership of your life or experiences.

When you release the expectations of others, you'll also be able to let go of the past. This doesn't mean you have to forget what happened but it does mean you have to let go of the hurt, the anger, and the bitterness. It's important to remember that the past is over and that you can't change it, but you can move on from it.

7. How to let go of guilt

There's this really great book called The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. In it, Tolle talks about the concept of "emptiness" and how it's the key to unlocking our potential. He goes on to say that we should all learn to let go of our guilt and our expectations of others. Guilt, in my opinion, is one of the biggest inhibitors to personal growth. It's like this little voice in the back of our minds that tells us we're not good enough and that we should be ashamed of ourselves.

It's not only unproductive, it's also damaging. Guilt can lead to depression, anxiety, and even physical illnesses. The key to unlocking our potential is to learn to let go of our guilt and our expectations of others. This is a really big step, but it's one that's worth taking.

8. How to let go of stress

So much of our lives is spent waiting for things that we can't control. Whether it's traffic, the weather, or another person. And the more stressed we are, the harder it is to focus on anything else.

It's time to let go of the expectations of others and find yourself. You can do this by releasing the stress you're put under.

There are many ways to do this. Meditation is one of the simplest and most effective ways to clear your mind and relieve stress. You can also try yoga or any other form of exercise that makes you feel good.

You can also read self-help books, listen to calming music, or take a walk outside. All of these things will help you to find yourself and relieve some of the stress you're carrying around.

9. How to let go of anger

There's no denying that anger can be a powerful emotion. It can motivate us to do things that we wouldn't normally do. It can be a driving force in our lives. Unfortunately, anger can also be destructive. Anger can be destructive to our relationships, our work, and even our physical health. It can lead to violence, anxiety, and depression. It's important to learn how to deal with anger in a healthy way. The first step is to admit that anger exists. Once you admit that anger is a part of you, you can start to understand that it's not always going to be controllable. However, by learning how to control it, you'll be in a much better position to deal with it in a healthy way.

10. How to let go of fear

There's a quote that goes something like this, "You can't control the direction of the wind, but you can adjust your sails." This is a great quote to remember when it comes to letting go. You can't control the direction that the wind will take you, but you can adjust your sails to take advantage of the wind.

In the business world, it's important to remember that you can't control the market. You can't control who will invest in your company, you can't control the economy, and you can't control the price of your product. What you can control is how you react to the market. You can control how you treat people, you can control how you market your product, and you can control how you interact with customers. The most important thing is to stay positive and to have faith in yourself. The market will take care of the rest.

We hope you enjoyed our post about how to find yourself through releasing the expectations of others. We know that it can be difficult to let go of the expectations that others have of you, but it is key to your growth and development. By releasing the expectations of others, you will be able to find yourself and become the person that you were meant to be. Thank you for reading, and we hope that you found this post helpful.

  • Aqueelah Wheatley, M.S., LMFT

We all have stories inside of us. Some are happy, others are sad. But, like everything else in life, we have the ability to change them. What we do with our stories is up to us. In this blog post, we are going to explore the concept of letting go. What is it? Why is it important? And, most importantly, what are the steps we need to take in order to let go of the past and start fresh with the present? We all have baggage from our past. Sometimes it's difficult to let go of the things that have hurt us. But, if we are willing to take the time to explore and understand our stories, we can start to let go of the things that are no longer serving us. We are all capable of change. Let's start by exploring the idea of letting go, and then take the steps necessary to make it a reality in our lives.

1. Introduction

In this blog post, I would like to share with you my journey of self-discovery. I've been through a lot of different phases in my life and I've discovered that letting go is the key to happiness. I hope that by reading this post, you'll be able to understand and apply the lessons that I've learned.

2. Why did I decide to let go?

There are many reasons why someone might decide to let go of something. Maybe the person has grown tired of the situation, maybe they feel like they're not making any progress, or maybe they just don't feel like it's worth their time. In the end, it's up to the person to decide if they think the benefits of letting go outweigh the risks. There are always risks when anything is involved in life, whether it's a relationship, a job, or a hobby. But sometimes it's worth taking the risk in order to gain something else. For me, I decided to let go of my blog because I felt like it wasn't giving me the results I wanted it to. I'm not saying it was a bad blog, but I wanted to try something new.

3. How did letting go, go?

In the beginning, letting go was hard. I wanted to cling to the memories like they were my only friends in the world, but I knew it was for the best. I slowly began to realize that memories are like cobwebs- they hold us back from moving on.

The more I let go, the more space I had to explore and grow. I was able to see that I had been holding myself back for years and years. I had to let go of the past in order to move on to the future.

4. What were the main emotions I felt during the process?

There are many different emotions that go along with letting go. Sadness, anger, regret, and emptiness are just a few of the emotions that can surface during the process.

No matter how healthy or unhealthy the relationship was, it is always difficult to let go. We may be attached to the idea of holding on to something that no longer serves us. There are a few things to keep in mind when letting go. First, be honest with yourself about what it is that you're holding on to. Second, be prepared for the emotions that will surface. Finally, be patient. It may take some time for the emotions to dissipate, but they will eventually.

5. How has letting go changed me?

I remember the first time I let go. It was a difficult process but it has led me to some amazing things. Here are just a few of the things that have happened as a direct result of letting go. 1. I've become more patient. 2. I've become more organized. 3. I've become more creative. 4. I've become more efficient. 5. I've become more flexible. 6. I've become more disciplined. 7. I've become more forgiving. 8. I've become more optimistic. 9. I've become more confident. 10. I've become more loving. There are many benefits to letting go. The key is to start small and work your way up. Once you've begun to see the benefits, you'll be more eager to let go of the things that are no longer serving you.

6. Lessons I learned from letting go

It's been said that when you let go of something, you're actually letting go of who you were at that moment in time. You're transitioning into a new person, and you're starting fresh.

When I decided to let go of my previous job, it was a very difficult process. I was going through a lot of emotions and it was really tough to let go. In the end, I learned some valuable lessons which I want to share with you.

7. What would I do differently next time?

This was a toughie. There are so many things I would do differently next time. Some of them would be small, like taking the time to properly research a potential business partner before signing on the dotted line. Others would be more significant, like not investing all my money in a new business idea before fully understanding the market. It's been said that hindsight is 20/20 and that's definitely the case with business decisions. In fact, most of the time we don't even know what we don't know until after we've made a mistake. That's why it's so important to continuously learn and grow. The biggest lesson I learned from my journey is that I need to be more patient. I'm not saying that I won't ever take risks again, but I will be more thoughtful about it. I also need to be more flexible in my business plans and not be so rigid.

8. Final thoughts

I'm not sure where this journey will take me, but I know it will be an interesting one. I've learned a lot in the last few weeks, and I'm excited to see where the journey takes me next. I'm grateful for the opportunity to write this post and to have shared my thoughts with you. As always, I welcome any thoughts, feedback, or questions you may have.

9. Appendix: A list of resources to help you let go

There have been many times in my life where I've been faced with the decision to let go of something that's no longer serving me. Sometimes it's a relationship, other times it's a job, and sometimes it's something I've been holding onto for too long. The following are some resources that I've found helpful in letting go: -The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman -The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle -The 4-Hour Workweek by Timothy Ferriss -The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown I'm not saying that these books are all about letting go, but they all provide helpful insights and advice on how to deal with difficult situations. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, so what works for me might not work for you. But I hope that after reading this list, you'll have a better idea of what resources and advice might work best for you in your own journey to self-discovery.

10. Conclusion

It's been a journey of self-discovery for me as I've let go of things I once thought were important. In the beginning, it was hard. I craved the approval of others, I wanted what they had, and I didn't want to be on my own. But eventually, I realized that being on my own provided me with more freedom, and I was able to do things I never thought possible. I'm not suggesting that you have to go through the same process as I have, but I am suggesting that you take some time for yourself and assess what's truly important to you. Once you've identified those things, it will be much easier to let them go.

We hope you enjoyed our blog post on letting go. We know that this can be a difficult process, but it is ultimately one that will lead to a much stronger and happier you. We highlighted five tips that will help you through this journey. We hope that you find the tips helpful and that you can apply them to your own life. Be well and happy, and thank you for reading!

  • Aqueelah Wheatley, M.S., LMFT

After a breakup, it can be easy to feel lost and confused. It's natural to go through the five stages of grief, but it's important to remember that everyone experiences these emotions differently. Here are the five stages of grief after a breakup: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. It's important to remember that these stages will pass and that you will eventually reach acceptance. In the meantime, remember to keep your head up and stay positive. The best way to cope with the breakup is to take things one step at a time. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to healing from a breakup, but by following these five stages, you will be on your way to a healthy and positive outlook.

1. Denial

At first, you may feel like it's not really happening. You may try to convince yourself that your partner is simply having a bad day and will soon come around. You may try to rationalize the situation or convince yourself that it's not really over.

In the early stages of the breakup, you may be in denial. You may think that things will get better and that your partner will change their mind. You may think that it's not really over.

Eventually, you may reach the stage of bargaining. You may offer to do anything to make things work. You may try to convince your partner that you're the one that should be the one to go. You may offer to move out or to stay friends.

In the stage of bargaining, you may be trying to get your partner to change their mind. You may be trying to get them to change their mind about the breakup. You may be trying to get them to change their mind about you. Eventually, in the stage of depression, you may realize that bargaining is not going to work and that the breakup is really over. You may feel hopeless and helpless. You may feel like you'll never be able to get over the breakup.

2. Anger

Anger is the first stage of grief. You're mad at the world and everything in it. You may lash out at your ex and their new partner, or you may be bitter and resentful. You may feel like you can't go on. The second stage is bargaining. You're trying to get the best deal possible. You may try to make your ex come back to you, or you may try to get them to change their mind about ending the relationship. The third stage is depression. You're sad and you may feel hopeless. You may feel like you can't cope, or that you'll never be the same again. You may feel like you don't want to live. The fourth stage is acceptance. You've come to terms with the breakup and you may even be grateful for it. You may learn something new about yourself, or you may move on.

3. Bargaining

The first stage of grief is bargaining. You may feel like you have to do anything to get your ex back, even if it's just getting back together for the sake of the kids. This is a phase where you may try to convince your ex to get back together, or you may try to make him or her change their mind about leaving. In this stage, you may also feel like you're not good enough for your ex and that you'll never be good enough. You may also feel like you deserve to be hurt or that your ex deserved to leave.

After bargaining, you may enter the second stage, depression. This stage is characterized by a lack of motivation, a decrease in appetite, and a decrease in energy. You may also feel like you can't go on and that you don't want to live. The third stage is acceptance. In this stage, you may start to feel better and may even start to look forward to the future. You may also start to forgive your ex and start to see him or her in a different light.

The fourth stage is rebuilding. This is the stage where you start to focus on your own life and start to build a new relationship. You may start to focus on your own happiness and start to focus on the things you're grateful for. The fifth and final stage is moving on. In this stage, you may start to date and find someone new, or you may start to volunteer and help others. You may also start to think about your ex less and less.

4. Depression

After a breakup, many people experience a range of emotions including sadness, anger, and confusion. However, one of the longest and most difficult emotions to deal with is depression. Depression is a mood disorder in which people experience a persistent low mood, diminished interest or pleasure in activities, and diminished energy. It can be caused by a number of factors such as a break-up, a personal loss, or stress at work. If you're experiencing depression after a breakup, it's important to seek help. There are many effective treatments available, and you can get help from a therapist, counselor, or support group.

5. Acceptance

The 5 stages of grief after a breakup are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Denial is when you refuse to accept the breakup even though it's happening. You may try to convince yourself that it's not really happening or you may act like everything is still the same. Anger is when you feel resentment and anger towards the other person. You may lash out at them or blame them for the breakup. Bargaining is when you try to get the other person to change their mind or do something to make the breakup go away. You may offer them money or favors. Depression is when you feel sad and hopeless. You may have trouble sleeping, eat a lot, or avoid anything that reminds you of the person who broke your heart. Acceptance is when you finally let go and accept the breakup.

We hope you enjoyed our blog post on the 5 stages of grief after a breakup. We know that this is a difficult time for everyone involved, and our blog is here to provide some support and help you through this process. We understand that it can feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, but with time, you will start to see the light at the end of the tunnel. We are here for you, and we will continue to support you through this difficult time. Thank you for reading.

bottom of page